Blog Post #4 

Red Flags You Should Never Ignore in a Relationship:

 

🚩Red Flags of an Abusive Relationship:

When love begins, it can feel magical. But when control, fear, or manipulation creep in, those magical moments can become confusing and terrifying. Abuse doesn’t always start with a slap or shout- it often starts subtly. That’s why it’s important to know the red flags before the damage grows.

If you’re questioning your relationship-or helping someone else through theirs-here are  common red flags of an abusive relationship.

❗️Emotional & Psychological Red Flags:

  • Extreme Jealousy: masked as love or protection.
  • Love bombing: early-on excessive flattery, gifts, fast-moving commitment.
  • Constant criticism: or belittling comments(even as “jokes”)
  • Gaslighting: Making you question your memory, feelings, or reality.
  • Isolation from friends, family, or support systems.
  • Blaming you: for their problems, emotions, or actions.
  • Walking on eggshells to avoid upsetting them.

❗️Behavioral Red Flags:

  • Monitoring your phone, social media, or location.
  • Controlling what you wear, where you go, or who you see.
  • Explosive temper or mood swings
  • Threats of self-harm or violence if you try to leave.
  • Destroying your belongings or using intimidation.
  • Pushing boundaries and then apologizing-over and over.

❗️Financial Red Flags:

  • Withholding money or making you ask for basic needs.
  • Taking your earnings or preventing you from working.
  • Using money to manipulate decisions.

🚨 What to Do if You See These Signs:

 You deserve a relationship where you feel safe, respected, and loved. If you notice these red flags.

  • Trust your gut. If something feels wrong, it likely is.
  • Document everything. Save texts, photos, or journal entries.
  • Talk to someone you trust. A friend, counselor, or support group can offer guidance.
  • Contact a Domestic Violence Hotline or shelter in your area. (See resources page) You’re not alone!

❤️ Final Words: 

Abuse thrives in silence. Recognize these warning signs is the first step toward breaking free. Whether you’re in this situation or supporting someone who is- there is hope, and there is help.

 

With love, 

Jennie & Jessica