Blog Post # 7 

“But They Were So Nice”- When Abusers Fool Everyone

One of the hardest things about surviving abuse is how believable your abuser is to the outside world.

 

They might charm the neighbors, hold a steady job, help your family, or even volunteer in the community.

Meanwhile, behind closed doors, you’re living in fear. 

So many survivors are told:

”But they seem like such a great person.”

”They’d never do that.”

”Are you sure you’re not overreacting?”

 

But here’s the truth:

Abusers don’t wear warning labels.

The Two Faces of Abuse

Abusers are often masters of image control:

• They’re kind in public and cruel in private
• They cry, apologize, and promise change- until you stay
• They twist stories so you look unstable

It’s not your job to prove the abuse.

It’s your right to protect yourself-even if no one else understands. 

If You’ve Ever Felt Alone in This

You are not dramatic.

You are not making it up.

You are not the problem.

Many survivors stay longer because they fear no one will believe them. But here’s what matters most:

You believe you.

That’s where healing begins.

 

With Love,

Jennie and Jessica